I wasn’t sure how to write about this, but it’s been on my mind a lot lately! I’ve had a lot of changes in my life recently – luckily most have been good.
I hope whoever reads this can relate or atleast it can open your eyes to what (and who) you need in your life.
I used to think the more you had the better- but was it really worth having quantity over quality? Is it worth shallow relationships?
Ive had some of the best friends. Those that are there for you through the good and the bad. Sure they have come and gone. People change, life happens, you outgrow each other or you are at different places in life.
I believe everyone comes into your life for a reason no matter if they stay or go.
You need people in your life who are happy for you – there when you need them (and vis versa)
Just be there. Even if that means it’s not the most fun thing. I’ve struggled with this a lot. I definitely have fallen to FOMO. (fear of missing out)
“Oh I don’t wanna miss that party”
“So & so will be there I have to go”
“Y’all are lame for staying in”
This is a big thing I saw. Don’t have friends that always choose the “fun thing” you want the friends who will hangout and be boring with you.
Laugh and cry with you.
Sure being friends with someone when times are good and all is right in the world is well – easy! It’s when life gets ugly you really need them most.
Friends want you to succeed. Notice the ones that stay silent or turn the other way when they see you doing something good. They don’t congratulate you or aren’t excited when you get that big break you’ve been waiting for.
Friends built each other up – even if that means they have to step back and let you have the spotlight.
This is a big one. I know so many people who have drifted apart because they get into a relationship. This can both ways.
“She only spends time with her bf now”
“You always put him first”
“Spend more time with your girls”
This is something you have to work at. Now it’s a two way street. Make time for your friends even if a guy comes into your life. But also be happy if your friend is happy and found someone – don’t resent them for it!
I promise you a guy will come when you’re happy with yourself and ok on your own.
I’ve never been good at being alone. This doesn’t mean I “lack independence” or I’m needy I just simply like having someone there! It’s part of my nature – I was raised by a close knit family and always liked having them by my side.
Now this doesn’t mean I don’t like my alone time also – everyone needs a “me day”!
“Gossip is the Devils radio” this quote is one I’ve always thought about because it’s so true.
Everyone talks crap – you’re guilty of it, I’m guilty of it, it’s human nature.
Put others down to feel better about yourself. You’re trying to compensate for something missing in your own life.
This all is a result of jealousy.
Notice- if majority of your conversations revolve around talking badly about others and putting them down do you really want this friend in your life? Why should someone else’s downfalls or troubles be your topic of discussion?
It’s not fair and it’s sure as hell not right.
Why am I writing all this? Partially to vent. Mostly hoping to help someone in the same boat. Someone stuck between FOMO and reality I guess.
My eyes have been truly opened on who I want (and need) in my life.
Friendships are important – just make sure you fight for the deep die-for-you ones because those are who matter most!