Hey everyone- Lo here!
You may want to grab your wine for this one. I’m about to take a trip down memory lane and provide you with some advice from lessons i’ve learned along the way.
As the college days are slowly creeping up on Lexi I have so many thoughts going through my head. First off, damn I’m getting old and secondly, I have to share some things I wish I would’ve known at the start of it all. Now although Lex inspired this post – any sister’s or young girls out there, I’m talking to you!
So you’re getting ready for a new season of life, whether that’s starting high school, college, or even a new job in an unfamiliar place. I know you probably have a lot of emotions going on: excited, scared, anxious, partially freaking tf out- well don’t worry, you’re not alone. This leads me to my first piece of advice.
1. It’s ok to not have it all figured out.
You know the saying “fake it till you make it”? I’ve never heard more true words. It’s ok to not have it all together all the time – Laugh, cry, scream if you need to. The people you see that seem to have it all figured out I promise they don’t. So if you’re stressing about a class or feel like you’re never going to nail this whole “college life”, I promise you will.
2. Forget the boy.
This is one I had to learn the hard way. I always dated through high school and into college and most were pretty serious relationships. I’ve had good, bad & worse. I thought I had found my “soulmate” a time or two – oh poor 18-year-old me. If it feels wrong, it is – Sometimes it takes God himself to come down waving a big red flag in your face, but time will always tell. Now when you find the right one you better hold on tight, don’t be too guarded or afraid to fall. The one who makes you laugh, who you can be yourself with, makes little cheesy romantic gestures, never makes you feel less. That is THE guy you want!
3. It’s ok to stay in a night.
Now, this is coming from someone with major FOMO (until now, I appreciate bordem with a class of wine, Netflix, and my bed) but I know at 19 it seems like you just have to go but guess what? You don’t. If you’re too tired or you have a bad feeling – go with your instincts, she’s never wrong!
4. God first.
This is one may seem obvious, but life gets busy and it’s easy to forget. Go to church, find a bible study, heck just worship to Christian music in your car if you need to. Find time for Him! When all else is going wrong, turn to God. When everything is going right, turn to God. He has gotten me out of some pretty bad times and continues to be the light of my life.
5. Sadly, freshman 15 is a thing.
Why is it that pizza & Taco Bell tastes so much better at 2 am? Lol but seriously alcohol, late-night eating, stress. All these factors can be your body’s worst enemy. I’m not saying these things in moderation are bad just take care of yourself so you can be the best version of yourself in all aspects. 🙂
6. Don’t hold back.
I’ve always been more reserved there’s nothing more daunting than walking into class on the first day. Where do I sit? Front, no I look like a teacher’s pet. Back, no I’ll look like I don’t care. Wait worse… who do I sit by? I was so intimidated. I remember I sat next to someone and it wasn’t until maybe a month in I introduced myself and little did I know we ended up having more classes together and being great friends. If you feel awkward or are wondering if you should say “hi”, you should. Don’t let potential friendships pass you by just because it’s a little awk.
7. Stand up.
Stand up for yourself and for others. College is a big place, it’s easy to lose yourself. If you don’t like something- change it, if you see something going on that shouldn’t- stop it. Don’t change yourself for someone else or to fit a mold you are YOU for a reason!
Let’s just say as you grow your friend group may not- it may actually shrink. It’s ok. As you find yourself you may have to accept that some people will choose different paths, lifestyle, or priorities. Just remember 1 good friend is better than 10 not so good ones. Don’t lose sight of that! Notice who is there for you when you need it, who builds you up, who celebrates your accomplishments, and pushes you to be better. (Read more of my rant on my Friends blog)
9. Don’t regret.
Everyone has things they wish they wouldn’t have done, but that is all a part of this journey. You can’t change it, so don’t dwell on it. If you sit in a state of anger, guilt, or regret you’ll never get to where you need to be. The only way to learn from mistakes- is to make them! Trust me, I have more than I can count but I choose to forget and keep on keepin’ on.
10. It goes fast.
Sure everyone says it “wow time flies by” well it really does. I guess you don’t know it until it’s happened. As I reflect on my past four years of college I’m happy. Did I make mistakes? Duh was it hard? Of course but if someone asked me to start all over again – hell yeah I would! It’s some of the most fun-filled years of your life so take advantage of it.
That’s all for now. If you ever need some big sister advice or you can relate to any of these topics I’d love to hear from you! Don’t hesitate to reach out <3